Rosie, my daughter will become a big sister in October! Rosie’s name has been used on so many books for photoshoots etc., but yesterday she got her very own Super Duper Big Sister Book for keeps! She had such an amazing reaction to it, which made me well up like a typical pregnant Mama Bear not wanting her baby to grow up! I had researched this topic in depth for our best selling book and experienced it through my work as a paediatric nurse. I had also interviewed many parents on the topic, but nothing proved the concept so well as my own Rosie engaging with the story. These tips may help you to prepare your TiNY for TiNY Number Two too.
When to break the news:
It may be best to wait until you are a little further into your pregnancy (perhaps until you have a bump) to tell your toddler about the new baby. This may allow your toddler to understand the concept of a baby in mummy’s tummy a little better. You may also be telling others around this time. There are exceptions to this of course, for example if your toddler is asking you questions that you really can’t seem to answer without telling him what’s going on. Follow your child’s lead. If he/she puts two and two together, then just let him/her know. If you feel that you would like to tell your toddler straight away the go ahead; just be prepared for nine months of constant questions.
How to break the news:
A very good way to tell your toddler about the new baby (and one that has been used for generations) is through a picture book. This allows the child to visualise what it is that you are talking about. It also allows the child to engage and ask questions or to express his own concerns about his new role as a big brother. You may be surprised by what he/she is thinking about.
One book I’d (obviously) recommend is Writing for TiNY’s Super Duper Brother/Sister personalised book. The story focuses on the child rather than the new baby. The child learns about what it means to become a big sister/brother through his/her encounters with seven different animals and their baby siblings. We then see him or her meet the new baby and experience those wonderful first moments.
Have a look at the story here:
Piece adapted from piece written for HerFamily.ie by Gail Condon, founder and CEO of Writing for TiNY